Most of my life I have always known I was meant to write…I just find so much comfort and enjoyment through it. As a mother I have these grandiose ideas of writing mommy blogs, recipe editorials and the truth is real life seems to always catch up and hover over my fantasies and remind me of all the things I have to actually do and it drains me from exploring, taking risks, daring to dream beyond the here and now. We all know life can be depressing, stressful, full of limitations. Yet when we look beyond the limitations and take the steps towards our passions something gets ignited that wasn’t there before. This uplifting hope gets refueled. I see this renewed hope come in the form of a meaningful conversation with my husband or a joyous day with the kids but I also find this joy and passion in writing. That is why I am obligating myself to write because it’s a dream. A dream I’d like to make a reality and with any dream you have to start living it out! So here I go taking these scary borderline uneventful first steps to see what God has in store with this desire that’s been on my heart ever since I was a little girl and God has given me an amazing story that I want to share with you all!
motherhood AND Marriage
I have two boys.. Luke who is in his daddy’s arms and will be turning six in September and Judah who’s going to be four in August. My husband Kyle and I have been married for almost 6 ½ years. God has given me an amazing life and I treasure these days with my boys being “little” and exploring the world around them! I relish in these days of the “mama I need you.” In motherhood it’s easy to lose yourself and the balance of putting God first, than your husband and than your kids can seem impossible.
Being a stay at home mom I find it to be a challenge to put Kyle in the second spot. Putting God first isn’t usually a battle ..I rely on Him daily, but to be honest my kids usually get the second and if I am going to be really honest sometimes they even take the top. What I have found though is that there is grave importance in the pyramid God has outlined. See when we are not communicating with one another about our marriage and prioritizing each other we are taking away from the fundamental structure our kids need for a healthy home. If I want to give them the world I need to start with the man that gave me them. We are building a legacy with the work and effort we put into one another and that love trickles down to our children in more ways than I can count. I am learning for the first time in our 6 1/2 year marriage how to revert back to the pyramid and put it into motion. I am discovering that through doing this we are recreating our friendship and love we have for one another on a deeper intimate level. We are becoming a truly UNITED front!
In this day and age with 50% of marriages end in divorce we need to be honest from the beginning… marriage takes work! It doesn’t come easy and EVERY marriage has trials and trouble. It’s in these pits that we are to lean on God in the good times and the bad. We need to remain focused on His love and through His love we can show love to our imperfect spouse because we too are imperfect. It’s in these times of uncertainty that we can fall back on the ONE AND ONLY truth there is which leads to hope and renewal. Love is an action but it’s also a choice that is made daily. There is no perfect relationship but there is a perfect way on getting through troubled times and that is through TRUSTING in God and being willing to work on things together! No matter what you’re up against God will plow through the obstacles with that you’re facing if BOTH individuals are willing. Remember miracles don’t always happen overnight. Find peace and solice in knowing that God is for you and in His great love for you miracles do happen. They can come in many forms and often times they come in ways that we’d least expect to find them. Sometimes it takes being broken down to be built back up! Regardless of what you’re facing remember God is before you in all things!
Hugs,
Julie Black
Faith Based Heart by Julie Black 